spinsternoun - derogatory
an unmarried woman, typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage.
synonyms: unmarried woman
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Way back when, in the day of rotary phones, a single 30 something woman was on her way to becoming a spinster. Today I consider it to be one of the most freeing experiences imaginable.
After spending almost a decade with the same person it was kind of a relief to be single. No more answering to someone else or having to ‘ask permission’ to do something. Sure, there are some down sides to being single, but nothing that can’t be overcome.
One of the best things about being single? Dating!
In today’s computer age it seems only fitting that more than a third of marriages start online. According to the Singles in America study, 27% of married people met their partner online! It makes you wonder what people did before the internet, doesn’t it?
Last week Real House Wife of New York, Carole Radziwill, joined Match.com’s Chief Scientific Advisor, Dr. Helen Fisher, for the #SinglesinAmerica Forum at The Rickey at Dream Midtown. The forum revealed the results of Match’s 6th annual Singles In America study.
I called over some friends to watch the forum over cocktails and sushi. Not only was the forum fun to attend, but it was super informative. We learned a lot of interesting facts and got some tips on how to date successfully. The forum covered the different aspects of dating including politics, how to get a second date, and what to do versus what not to do.
One of the most interesting facts for me was that going out for coffee isn’t as likely to get you a second date as going out for cocktails. There was also some pointers on when the best time of the day to have sex is! I don’t want to give too much away because you’ll want to watch it for yourself! If you’re ready to jump into online dating then now is a great time to start.
Being in a committed, monogamous relationship is one of the best feelings ever. You’ve found The One that makes everything around you seem so simple and beautiful. Everything feels so right and perfect and you can’t imagine life being lived any other way.
And then one day you wake up and wonder what the heck happened to those magical times.
Maybe it’s working late nights or constantly carpooling kids that has gotten in the way of the butterflies and rainbows. It’s way too easy for our day-to-day to carry into the evening and night. Being tired and sleep deprived doesn’t necessarily make for great sexy time and once you’ve been together for while sexy time can quickly become just a memory.
But that doesn’t stop the urge. If you feel like your relationship is falling flat then these 5 steps to reignite the spark can help.
Make a date night (and stick to it): Carve out at least one special night a week (or month if weekly isn’t possible) to reconnect and enjoy each others company. This is a great way to remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place.
Head to the cafe where you first had coffee, go on a refreshing hike, rent a canoe and spend a day on the river. What you do isn’t as important as the fact that you’re doing something!
Change things up a bit (but stay comfortable): It’s easy to fall into a routine and if past experience has taught me anything it’s that routine =/= sexy. Make it a point to make at least one change a month whether it’s your hairstyle, nail color, or rearranging the furniture.
If you normally order pizza go for Mexican instead. Stay within your comfort zone, but don’t be afraid to push your boundaries. Change can be a magical thing!
Talk to each other (keep the lines of communication open): Go beyond the “How was your day, dear?” habit and dive into something interesting. Not saying that your daily lives aren’t interesting, but if the answer is always “fine”, “okay”, or “don’t even ask” this can be helpful. There are so many topics you can discuss: TV, politics, religion, world news, vacation plans.
Find something you are both interested in and have a conversation about it. When was the last time you two really talked?
Tell each other your fantasies (don’t be shy!): On the topic of conversation, opening up to your partner about your fantasies can feel weird, sometimes even awkward. Afterall, these are thoughts you’re used to keeping to yourself. How can you tell them you want to do that or especially that?!
If voicing your fantasies is a little tough at first, why not try writing them down. Use the “Fantasy Bucket” idea to share your fantasies and have a little fun while you’re at it.
Get by with a little help from a friend (your husband/partner!): Pleasure inducers and enhancers in the bedroom is a commonly taboo subject. Even those of us who do it don’t really talk about it. It’s usually a “Surprise, look what I found!” type of thing. But what I want to introduce you to isn’t a toy and shouldn’t be taboo at all!
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